How to Become Pure

When Paul wrote to Titus, he stopped one verse short of us having a 3:16. Instead, we'll look at Titus 1:16 (with verse 15 included for context).

15 To the pure, everything is pure, but to those who are defiled and unbelieving nothing is pure; in fact, both their mind and conscience are defiled. 16 They profess to know God, but they deny Him by their works. They are detestable, disobedient, and disqualified for any good work.Titus 1:15-16

Paul had been to the island of Crete, and when he left, he left Titus there to continue the work of building the church on Crete. It was a tough mission field for Titus - there were people who wanted to overthrow the church, and were financially profiting from teaching what was wrong. (vv. 10-11) In fact, here's how one of their own described them.

12One of their very own prophets said,
Cretans are always liars, evil beasts, lazy gluttons.
Titus 1:12

Titus certainly had his work cut out for him! But, Paul's advice to him on selecting leaders of this young church can help us today, even though most of us probably attend well-established churches (or could if we wanted to). Paul starts verse 15 by saying "To the pure, everything is pure..." Paul hasn't been talking about those who are pure, but he is reminding Titus that there are people who have accepted the Word of God in their hearts, and have been made pure. This is the type of person we should strive to be. Paul mentioned purity when he told the Philippian church where they should focus their thoughts.

8 Finally brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable—if there is any moral excellence and if there is any praise—dwell on these things.Philippians 4:8

Even Jesus mentioned those who are pure in His Sermon on the Mount.

8 Blessed are the pure in heart, because they will see God.Matthew 5:8

Paul follows this short description with a contrast. The "defiled" are different; they claim to know God, but their words and their works are at odds with one another. They may know about God in their heads, but they do not know Him in their hearts. Paul describes these people as "detestable, disobedient, and disqualified for any good work." (v. 16)

Rather than focus on what these folks (or us today) have done wrong, think about this. If Paul had thought that the detestable, disobedient, vile beasts of Crete were beyond hope, would he have gone and started a church, and left Titus there to continue it? I doubt it. No matter how far gone we may think we are, it is God's grace that can bring us out of that, and purify our hearts. The purity that Paul spoke of in verse 15 is not something we can manufacture ourselves; rather, it is the outcome of us allowing God to come into our hearts and lives, and Him getting rid of the things that are keeping us from the purity He desires.

I pray that we will allow the Holy Spirit to purify our hearts, and make us willing, strong vessels for His work.

Posted by Daniel on Wednesday, October 10, 2007 at 7:00 am, under
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Christian Lance Yougas

Christian Lance Yougas United States
May 11, 2009 at 4:45 pm #

I'm trying but it seems really hard to be good and everytime I wake up I just end up getting pissed off at everyone and everything because I feel like my life isnt worth anything.

please pray for me

stephanie

stephanie United States
June 22, 2009 at 6:39 pm #

I will pray for you Christian. Please don't despair. JESUS will pull you through if you stay patient with yourself and quietly talk to JESUS about your problems.

Paul

Paul United States
July 16, 2009 at 3:31 am #

I have impure thoughts and desires. I have not been able to control them.
Please pray for me so that I will find the strength to conquer my sins and become worthy of God.

Daniel

Daniel United States
July 24, 2009 at 10:16 am #

I'll be praying for you both, Christian and Paul.  My pastor has a saying that makes a lot of sense.  He says "Victory isn't you overcoming sin, it's Jesus overcoming you."

The best advice I can give you is two-fold.  First, accept that this is not a one-time battle; until God takes us home, we'll have that double-nature that Paul describes in Romans 7 (http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=romans%207;&version=77 ) - the whole chapter is great, but he really begins digging into this around verse 15.

The second is that a "I'm not going to think about that" strategy is doomed for failure.  Rather, concentrate on catching yourself when these thoughts arise, and replace them with thoughts on Scripture.  Whether this is writing about Scripture, or the verses themselves, put something in to force out what shouldn't be there.  One thing you may consider is getting small cards that would fit in your pocket, and writing verses that you find meaningful.  Then, when a thought pops into your head, pull out the card and read over that verse.

As I said above, I will be praying for both of you.

Daniel

Casey

Casey United States
August 22, 2009 at 2:25 pm #

I'm a christian in the Marine Corp and lately I have been having a drinking problem.  This has never been an issue but lately drinking has become a priority. Your prayers are coveted.

Daniel

Daniel United States
August 25, 2009 at 3:08 pm #

Casey, I'll be praying for you.  It can be tough when your body begins craving things; but, more than trying to "not drink," replace that with something else (Bible study, exercise, etc.).  I'm sure the Corps has some sort of program where you can self-identify and get treatment if you need it - if it gets to that point, don't be afraid to use those resources.

Joelle

Joelle United States
September 14, 2009 at 12:29 pm #

I've been having a problem with pornography. I feel guilty and want to become completely pure of all of that. Please pray for me. I'm just so lost and I really don't want to make the same mistakes again. I want to walk by faith.

Christian Lance Yougas

Christian Lance Yougas United States
April 6, 2010 at 6:30 pm #

I really appreciate those who have taken time to pray for me, but I must admit that Ive been weak and I didn't give patience a chance to work, I'm really having alot of problems with my social life, behavior, and personal issues, Im going to give it another shot on being a different and better person that accepts GOD and I would really appreciate if someone would pray for me for a little while it would make me feel like I'm not enduring my problems by myself.

- I'm Open to Any Suggestions

Daniel

Daniel United States
April 7, 2010 at 2:08 am #

Christian,

I'm sorry that you've been having such a struggle.  I know it's touch to make changes and avoid falling back in the same familiar patterns.

At the start of this year, I resolved to make different choices when it came to entertainment.  Before, I would listen to political and tech-related podcasts at work.  Neither of those are bad, but I've replaced most of them with things like the Daily Audio Bible (http://dailyaudiobible.com ), Intentional Living (http://theintentionallife.com ), and Focus on the Family (listen.family.org ).  At the latter, although it has the word "family" in it, there are resources for singles as well.

Also, instead of jumping around on the radio to find a song I liked, I put it on our local Family Life Radio (http://myflr.org ) station.  (In fact, the inspiration to make this change came from a "30 Day Challenge" they had issued, which I wrote about at daniel.summershome.org/.../my-flr-30-day-challenge .)  Occasionally, I'll move it to M88 (http://m88.org ), which plays music that's a bit harder.  You can actually listen to it online as well.

What does that have to do with you?  I've been struggling with anger.  Over the past 4 months, I've seen God work more in my life in this area than I have before.  Ephesians 5:18 (at www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ephesians+5:18&version=HCSB) is a verse some people believe condemns drinking, but focus on the latter half: "And don't get drunk with wine, which leads to reckless actions, but be filled with the Spirit."  By surrounding myself with more Godly music and talk, I have really seen a difference in how much of my mind is filled with good versus what is filled with evil.

I'll continue to pray for you, that you can have this peace.  Have you ever chosen Christ?  If so, realize that you're forgiven.  The local Easter sunrise service we attended has been placed online at http://wakeupabq.org - if you have an hour to spare, I'd highly recommend watching it.  (If you have 40 minutes, you can skip to 20 minutes in, which is where the message begins.)  If you've received His forgiveness, this will encourage you; if you haven't, it shows that in a way that's easy to understand.

Daniel

Christian Lance Yougas

Christian Lance Yougas United States
April 7, 2010 at 7:54 pm #

I really appreciate you guys, just knowing that someone cares makes me feel little better, today at school I was about to erupt on my classmates but I remember that someone took time out of their lives to pray for me and I wasn't angry anymore in fact I was happy and the rest of my school day was pretty good.

Thanks

Christian Lance Yougas

Christian Lance Yougas United States
April 9, 2010 at 10:05 pm #

Much thanks my life is starting to change for the better, please continue to offer prayer for me so that I may keep progressing with these positive changes.

Christie Montgomery

Christie Montgomery United States
April 25, 2010 at 4:17 pm #

Thank you to all who counseled and encouraged Christian.  He was a classmate of my daughter.  We heard the news this evening, that he ended his life.   It is such a sad feeling that I have reading the thread of comments.  I shared with my daughters, that they must listen more carefully, see more clearly the people that are around them, to show the love of Jesus.   People who are hurting, usually show signs of some kind or try to reach out for help.  God Bless You All!!
I would ask that you continue to pray for his family.

Elizabeth Duncan

Elizabeth Duncan United States
April 25, 2010 at 5:00 pm #

We may never know or understand the heaviness in our hearts, we can only know that God's love for us is true and deep. Christian was a great friend to so many of the kids and was an awesome guy. Our boys will miss him. Much love from my family to his in this time of mourning...

Jonille Alexander-Ramsey

Jonille Alexander-Ramsey United States
April 26, 2010 at 2:14 am #

My daughters are classmates of Christian's as well, and I am so sorry to hear of such devestating news.  It appears through the previous postings from Christian that he was trying to reach out, and for someone to help him.  In the end, it appears the pain was too heavy for him to bear.  This tragedy is devastating for those who knew him, and for those who didn't.  Any loss of life, so early, is unbearable to fathom.  My prayers go out to his family, friends, and to all those who knew him.  God bless all of you.

Daniel

Daniel United States
April 26, 2010 at 2:59 am #

I and the prayer warriors at my church are praying for Christian's family and friends during this very difficult time.  I'm not so old that I don't remember my teenage years, and the struggles I had with feelings of inadequacy and loneliness.  Removed from the situation, I can see that these were not true, but when I was going through it, it was really tough.

For those of you who are his friends - I highly recommend the film To Save a Life (http://www.tosavealifemovie.com), which came out last fall.  It follows a teen's struggle when one of his friends makes the decision that Christian made yesterday, and he's left wondering "what could I have done?"  It spoke to me, and I'm nearly 20 years removed from that scene.

While I'm having trouble with words, below are a few thoughts for those who knew and/or loved Christian:

1.  If Christian was saved (his comments here lead me to believe he was), he's in a better place.  Although we will miss him, we'll see him again one day.

2.  "What could I have done?" should not lead to guilt.  Hindsight is always 20/20, and looking back, you may see things that are clearer now.  Don't beat yourself up about it; learn from it.  Let "never again" be your call to action, not your condemnation.  (I can tell you that I've already made 2 decisions because of this: I'm going to make a point to get back to writing these, and when I see someone post something like Christian did initially, I'm going to offer to talk via private e-mail.)

3.  Be there for each other.  Don't be afraid to share your true feelings with your parents or trusted friends.  If you're having inner struggles, sharing them is one way to lighten the load.  I remember the minister at my wedding saying "Sorrow shared is sorrow halved," and it's true!

I am deeply sorry for your loss; may God bless Christian's family and friends.

SARAHMORGAN

SARAHMORGAN United States
April 26, 2010 at 12:08 pm #

My truly deep condolences to Yougas. RIP.

Adam

Adam United States
April 26, 2010 at 12:09 pm #

RIP Christian, you will be missed.

anonym

anonym United States
April 26, 2010 at 12:13 pm #

I never get to know him in school, but for any reason he committed it, I hope people would respect that It’s the path he’s choosen. and I hope there would not be any misleading Information in substance.

Daniel

Daniel United States
April 26, 2010 at 12:23 pm #

Anonym, there should never be any reason for someone to choose this path. Respect (or lack thereof) of his choice won’t change the outcome in his case, but we should strive to help people see that this is never the preferable solution. I’ll do my best to moderate any speculation; it seems that this has caught pretty much all of us by surprise.

My prayer, and main focus and desire, is for healing for his family and friends. I also do not want to see others making the same choice he did; that sometimes happens in cases like this.

Lopez Family

Lopez Family United States
April 26, 2010 at 12:47 pm #

You may not be here with us, but thoughts of you are always going to be in our hearts forever. Our prayers goes out to you and your family. May you RIP we will miss you deeply.

Love always,
The Lopez Family

Shelby

Shelby United States
April 27, 2010 at 10:22 am #

Christian,

You had to of been one of the only reasons i went to class, you made me smile when i was having the worst day ever!): i will miss you terribly. You will never be forgotten. May you RIP forever...

God Bless,
Shelby

MissG

MissG United States
April 30, 2010 at 3:01 am #

I am a resident of Anna, TX and I also work in the school system here in Anna, so I knew Christian and his friends. I was not close with him, but I wanted to express empathy to all the family and friends of Christian. This has definitely been a tough week here in this small community. I have seen an outpouring of love, openness, grief and unity displayed throughout the high school that wasn’t here before Christian’s passing. I pray that this unity will not leave and that everyone will realize the impact that this has had on everyone that knew and even didn’t know Christian.
This is such a tragedy and I hope and pray that everyone will realize how important it is to BE AWARE of what you say, that words can’t be taken back. Hurtful wods can last a lifetime, and can’t be taken back. Everybody is important, everyone of us is a child of God, and we should all show each other love and compassion. You never know what someone is going through on the inside. Please take this into consideration always.
My heart has broken this week for all the students at Anna High and for all friends and family of Christian. May God bless all of you and my sincerest condolences are with the family. RIP Christian. You will be greatly missed.

Christians mom

Christians mom United States
June 6, 2010 at 2:36 pm #

Christian was always trying to bring home anyone he thought was troubled, Mom can she/he come stay with us thier going to runaway, thier parents are getting divorced or fighting, he has nowhere to go. He was always draw to ones who seamed alone
How could I not see or hear his cry for help, now I can sit and see some of his pain and I see I did nothing to help my son, he told me so much in his own way.
Christain would say he wouldnt tell us things because we would over react I explaind we are parents and it is our first reaction to protect him and that of his older bothers and sister. I tried to back off and just make him aware of his actions to others, but I had no Idea how bad thing were.
This is my burden or guilt I carry I failed my baby how alone was he, what kind of mother am I. Pray for me now please that I may be with my baby soon
Thank you for praying for my son Christain is with his true Father now and pray at peace

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